They Claim to Support Trump for the Economy, But, Really, It's About Subjugating Women

New YouTube long form chat discussing the experience of women trapped in marriages to Trump men and the masks these men wear to justify bait and switch marriage tactics to exploit women

Have you read The Cut’s recent article (by Andrea González-Ramírez) from the perspective of four women who support VP Kamala Harris and are married to Trump supporting men? I highly suggest checking it out - it’s a real exercise in empathy building for women who are unable to leave partnership with conservative men.

Their stories really broke my heart and I understand why it’s not feasible for them economically and socially to leave their husbands. Overall, it’s a cautionary tale of why no woman should partner or legally bind herself to men who have any patriarchal or socially conservative views - their masks fall after marriage and the women attached to them are functionally trapped post bait and switch.

My new YouTube parses one of the stories told in the article in detail - check out below. I highly suggest reading the entire article (it’s accessible if you haven’t exhausted your free article limit for the month already).

In this long form chat, we discuss how men voting for Trump cling to a fantasy that their vote is logical and rational - typically arguing that they support Trump’s economic policies while disingenuously distancing themselves from Trump abortion bans and promises to further subjugate women back into a status of property, not personhood.

We call out how men wear a mask of partnership to convince a woman to marry them, only to abandon their pre-marriage standards of participation to consume a woman’s labor in domestic, executive management, and family rearing realms without reciprocation, compensation, or care.

Conservative men are voting emotionally - they feel deeply insecure about being held to standards of character, care, respect, and participation within their relationships and families because they truly believe women exist to serve men’s needs and perform femininity for male consumption. 

When women exert their human rights to set boundaries, advocate for their own value and welfare, and demand equity and reciprocation in care, connection, partnership and the labor of life - men feel betrayed and belittled.  

Because these men assume that they are entitled to profit from the existence and presence of women by offsetting the labor of meeting basic needs and managing households onto her without meeting any consistent standards themselves. 

These men are angry about working to earn partnership instead of leeching women’s energy and resources to shore up their immature and undeveloped capacities and sense of self.

These men are so consumed with their own entitlement that they rationalize supporting abortion bans while witnessing how such a ban puts their own wife and their mother of their children in mortal danger.  And these men don’t care. 

These men demand to feel empowered to own women because they refuse to do the internal work to create their own self-esteem, their own base of competency across basic life skills, and the capacity to genuinely connect with themselves - let alone another person.

This is why conservative men support Trump and Republican policies designed to harm, subjugate, demean, and extract from women as property and the manufacturer of life for men to consume.  It’s not about caring for a woman - it’s about ensuring access to women to use dry and then replace with another to continuously fulfill the role of indentured servant and in-house pleasure provider without meeting any standards of connection, maturity, or care himself.

I have endless empathy for women who are trapped with conservative men who are willfully incapable of love and partnership.  Men who wallow in self-victimization and poisonous entitlement and rage.  May their stories be a lesson to us all that we must be rational about legally binding ourselves to others who do not see or value our personhood.

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xoxo, Coco + Maude